Words to Live By: Mollyism Edition

Hello Darlings.

Today is a very special day. It’s my gorgeous, light of the world, baby niece’s FIRST Birthday!

Happy Birthday sweet baby girl!

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And in honor of this little bundle of joy, what better way than to showcase Miss Molly Mahar’s latest edition of setting the world ablaze with Joy!?

If you aren’t already following Stratejoy, go ahead click >>> this <<< then sit back and enjoy your being one giant step closer to living your own authentic, fabulous life. In her latest installment she’s brought her tribe to Pinterest, thus introducing a new wave of #QOTD worthy imagspirations straight from Molly’s wise words.

Here are just a few of my favorites, but make sure to check them out yourself or better yet add to the fun! The contest closes tonight and winners are announced tomorrow. Which means you still HAVE TIME to get in your own Mollyism!

Pinterest: #stratejoyquotecontest

Acceptable

{Be UN-Acceptable}

fascinating you

{Be Fascinating}

Never Done

{Never Stop}

Play and Whimsey

{Being playful and whimsy}

Your Delight

{Or honoring your delight}

What are your favorite Mollyisms?

What are you favorite ways to celebrate joy?

“No consideration of failure…”

I have a confession.

I am a hard core nerd for everything Hollywood. The Actresses. The Actors. The Directors. The Stories. The Theater. The Fashion. The Popcorn. I kid you not, nerd on all fronts.

So when I found this little collection of gems (Also See: failing to focus on weekend work and getting distracted by the shiny things), let’s just say I lost spent an unhealthy amount of time nerding. all. out.

I just love the beauty in these unguarded moments (okay, I know they were interviews, so not totally unguarded but still…). What I didn’t expect was finding the real gems. The ironic and beautiful, almost embarrassed confessions of these – the brightest of stars – as they make their own confessions.

Confessions like this one from a young Jennifer Lawrence as she admits to a, “really gross, dangerous mentality of no consideration of failure. Just never even considering the thought of failure. If I want something I just go until I get it.”

 

And what comes from having that kind of mentality…

 

 

What could happen if  you had no consideration of failure?…

The mythology of equality

Recently I had a conversation with a good friend about dating and something he said struck a chord with me.

“…I’m looking for my equal.”

At face value, you might think, “Aww that’s sweet!”. And isn’t that what we’re all looking for at the end of the day? Someone to love who loves us? Someone to share every happiness with, to be supportive through every sadness?

Wrong.

With so many shouting equality these days, it begs the question of “why?’ Why are we so bent on being equal? Why do you want to be equal – the same – as anybody else, much less everybody else? Somewhere along the line, someone sold us a story about equality. And it sounded good.

But why?

It sounded good because it meant the end to feeling unrecognized, overlooked, underrepresented, underpaid…All the negative feelings we tie from (allow) exterior influences onto our own internal self-worth. While I don’t argue that there are cases where the fight may not be the same for one individual vs. another, I feel that the end goal is often the same. To be the best.

Who cares about being equal? Don’t we really want to be the best?

In career. In family. In friends. In life. Being the best is ingrained from an early age – some might say, an inherent need inherited from our ancestors, when being the best meant survival.

Now circle up. Back to the beginning, I proudly admit that I went after and married my best. Not my equal. Not my “good enough”. My Best.

The man who challenged me, pushed me (sometimes kicking and screaming) beyond my comfort zone to achieve things I only allowed my soul to whisper, barely audible, deep-deep-deep down in my heart. The one who made my stomach flutter. The one with whom I could barely contain a smile from the pride felt when he was by my side. The one who taught me I needn’t try to contain it.

When that man walked into my life, I didn’t think I’d found my equal. I knew I’d found my better half. And that’s what we should all strive for – our Better Half. That is what Mastermind Alliances are forged from, allowing each of us to achieve and continue to build then conquer or biggest dreams in pursuit of our best lives.

That, My Dear,  is worth looking for.

adventures in growing up

As we left work Zee German said something related to babysitting, which led us to mention Adventures in Babysitting and how we both loved that movie, which of course then led us to how Zee German obviously made it his goal to relive this movie in his daily life as proven by his track record of dating sub-25 year olds. Then deciding to marry one who frequently tries to get herself killed by texting and walking, crossing the street when everyone else does (despite the oncoming traffic) and drunkapades involving tutus, butts in the air and walking away with anyone that takes her hand (Oh hai mom! Promise I would never do that), where by making the rest of his life one big bad adventure in babysitting.

And that’s really all any of this mid-20 something life seems to be. One big adventure. Adventure in finding yourself. losing yourself. discovering yourself. accepting yourself. pushing yourself. Currently I’m somewhere between re-finding myself and letting go of the self I thought I was supposed to be.

This quote has popped up in my life about 5 times in the last couple weeks, which usually would mean that it’s a big flipping sign I’m not really doing what I should be (workwise or by spending too much time on sites like Pinterest – you decide).

And I really like this quote. It makes perfect sense that you should be doing what you would prefer to spend your time with when you have the choice. However, I also hate this quote because it makes me want to punch babies in the face when I re-assess how I spend my time and realize I need to find a way to become a professional Facebook Stalker, Pinboard Curator, or Coco Puffin Cuddler.

So the takeaway here is:

I need to be more flipping productive with my time

But also, it does help me narrow down interests, because it’s true that while many of us enjoy spending our time on Social Media sites and stalking  connecting with others, there are some things to be discovered in why I personally enjoy it so much. I like connecting. I like creating. I like beauty and visuals. I like writing. I like ideas. I like sharing. And I’m sure that if I keep analyzing this idea of work being what I prefer to do with my time, I just might figure out what the hell it is that I am “supposed” to be doing with myself. Or at least I’ll have a really great Pinboard about it in the meantime.